1. Be grateful. No matter what is going wrong, there is ALWAYS a reason to give thanks. You might not have everything you want…You might not even have everything you need. But as long as you’re still breathing, there is a chance to make something better, and that is something to be grateful for.
2. Don’t wait on the “right time”. You may never feel completely ready when an opportunity presents itself, but don’t be afraid to go for it. Some things are once in a lifetime, and if you keep waiting for this non-existent perfect time, you may miss your opportunity completely. Stop being scared and live life. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
3. Be happy with yourself. If you aren’t happy with you, then you can’t expect anybody else to change that. Date yourself for a while. Learn about who you are and what brings you joy and embrace those things. Only when you are truly happy will you successfully be able to join your life with another.
4. Steer clear of the green eyed monster. If you’re constantly comparing your life, your appearance, your job, your bank account, etc., to another, you will always be mad. There will ALWAYS be someone who has a bigger house, a nicer car, looks better, or has more money. Don’t worry about what everyone else has. Just enjoy what YOU have.
5. Don’t focus on what you don’t want to happen. If you spend all of your time stressing about what could go wrong, you’ll miss what goes right. Stop over-analyzing everything. Just stop. It is not doing you any good.Thinking too much will just create problems that weren’t even there in the first place.
6.Everyone is not going to love you. When there are people in your life that don’t wish you the best, they bring down your spirit. Let the Negative Nellies fly out of your life. Don’t get me wrong, you need people who will be honest with you. But you DON’T need someone who doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
7. Be patient and flexible. Everything is NOT going to happen exactly when you want it. Don’t try so hard to stick to that 10 year plan that you made. It is good to have goals, but remember that everything happens for a reason. Just because it doesn’t happen when you think it should doesn’t mean that it won’t happen at all.
8. The best things in life are free. Honestly, I have never had much money. I’ve struggled to pay bills. I’ve taken the bus because I couldn’t afford gas. I’ve cried because I didn’t know how I would get by. But the things in life that truly stick with me are the days spent with family when I couldn’t stop laughing or the lying in the arms of a loved one. You don’t have to have a lot of material things in order to have happiness.
Alright, I just wanted to touch on something that I’ve noticed lately: women allowing disrespect.
I’ve seen/heard comments like “All boyfriends cheat, you just have to accept that”, “Men will be men”, and “As long as he comes back to me at the end of the day, I don’t care who else he does”. Ladies, this is NOT acceptable. Comments, such as these, are merely excusing the horrid behavior. Realize your worth, and do not allow someone to disrespect you. You should wait for a man who will honor you and treat you like a queen. I know you’re thinking, what fairytale world does this chick live in? And I ask you to consider what I’m saying if only for a moment. Why should you be subjected to harsh treatment just to have “love”? Just to have someone to come home to at night? Is it really worth it if that someone doesn’t respect you, continuously sleeps around, breaks your heart, and abuses your trust? YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT! Don’t let anyone make you think that this situation is the best you can ever get. Be confident, demand respect and truly be loved.
I am a Communication major with a minor in Sociology, and I will be entering the real world December 2012. To my surprise, everyone was right when they said that college would go by quickly. I really can’t believe that it’s coming so soon.
And anybody who knows me, talks to me, or eavesdrops on any of my conversations I’ve had recently, knows that the truth has hit me. Hard. IN THE FACE! I’m going to be graduating very soon, and unless millions of dollars are going to magically appear in my bank account, I’m going to need a job to sustain myself.
Because of this abuse that I’ve been experiencing from this little trick named reality, I went to a career fair today. Thankfully, my school has one of the best career centers around so they are able to provide many opportunities such as this fair. Last night filled with angst, I researched the companies that would be represented and proceeded to have what some might call a psychological meltdown AKA I was freaking out. There was so much to read and so many decisions to make.
But this morning, I woke with a breath of calm. God, himself, was the only one who could have given me this peace. I was able to network with some great people and learn about some potential internships for the summer so I’m well on my way to success. I’m still unsure about my future, but the events of my day were able to restore my confidence in my abilities. No, everything did not go perfectly. I had a wardrobe malfunction, I was caught in the rain, I was splashed by a biker, and I didn’t find the job of my dreams. But I’ll get there. One step at a time. . .