Monthly Archives: February 2012

Star Parker

Yesterday, Star Parker was on my campus to give a presentation sponsored by one of the conservative groups. For those who don’t know, Star Parker is a conservative black social critic.

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with someone having a different view than me. I do have a problem with someone creating an image that is a huge false generalization.

In her talk about poverty and welfare, this woman destroyed the black family. She basically said that black people are lazy, irresponsible, and lack the Christianity they need to make good decisions, and that is why they are poor and on welfare. She engorged the negative stereotype of the black single mother, of black people in general, and her mostly white audience ate it up with smiles from ear to ear. During the entirety of her speech, she spoke of nothing but welfare and how it is the demise of the black family and gives us a sense of entitlement that we don’t have to work. She believes that black people oftentimes believe “the lie of the left”, and believe that they are poor because rich people are rich so they remain poor. Not until prompted did she even mention that millions of whites and Latinos also use welfare, but she quickly managed to bring that point right back to blacks.

She contradicted herself so many times. She continuously called for the country to return to the constitution and follow the guidelines that it states, but then she’d use God and scripture to support her points. Hello?! Have you ever heard of the separation of church and state?! She talked about wanting black people to have freedom and that education should be an open forum, but she wouldn’t allow anyone who protested her presentation (I was a participant) to ask her any questions. If you want me to be free, does that not include freedom to protest? She must have missed the section in the bill of rights that gives us freedom of speech and the right to assemble. If education is an open forum, why won’t you hear my side of the argument? She insulted the protesters saying that we were just mad because some people make more money than us. -___-

Anyone who did ask her a question that disagreed with her, she didn’t truly answer. She danced around questions like a politician.

And I honestly don’t know how a BLACK woman can truly deny that racism and slavery has any impact on society today.

This entire evening angered me. I woke up this morning still heated from that event. And the woman had a couple of good points, but they were buried so deeply within the crap that I couldn’t take her seriously.

I wonder if there will ever be a time in my lifetime when people don’t just see my people as a lazy, pathetic race, but unfortunately, I highly doubt it.


God’s Chisel Remastered

Skit Guys – God’s Chisel Remastered

They played this video after the sermon at church on Sunday, and I really wanted to share it. It’s not too long so if you have a few minutes, please check it out!

Can we just be friends, please?

Currently, I have no close platonic friendships. I don’t have any close guy friends that are completely unromantic; either we’ve dated or tried to date each other.I’m honestly not really sure how to make a male friend. I can’t be friendly without seeming flirtatious, and I feel like most men my age are always trying to find the next girl to get in their bed.

Call me crazy, but I just want to have a good guy friend again.

Each man I meet automatically tries to get me into bed, and I don’t know if that has something to do with me and how I’m acting or if that’s just the horny-ness of 21-24 year old men.

Sometimes I’ll tell them I’m only looking for friendship, and I’ll never hear from them again. Others still pursue me relentlessly. Even still, sometimes the breech of the platonic friendship comes from me, but hey, it happens (:

The question still remains: Is there such a thing as a platonic relationship? And if so, where can I get one?

New Blogger Award? For me??
I really appreciate this! I nominate Charlotte from She’s amazing and quirky, and I truly enjoy her blog!
I’ve just started on my journey on wordpress and most of the blogs I follow have been around for a while, but I definitely want to honor my good friend Kaisha who inspired me to start a blog! Check her out!!

The Militant Negro™

By Jueseppi B.

I am baaaaaaack. Time to bring some much deserved recognition to a few new bloggers. I have received two awards in my short time as a private blogger. And I can not tell you the joy of receiving those two awards brought to my mind. I noticed that awards for us bloggers carry some requirements that might be a bit overwhelming to new bloggers, so I came up with this idea….a New Blogger Award.

In this episode of the New Blogger Award, I will select a number of new bloggers I think deserve to have motivation, acceptance and praise for the work they are doing. I have but three requirement for acceptance of this award…
1).  That your blogging experience be fairly new, or fairly unknown.
2). That you pass this award forward to other new bloggers that you discover who impress you as a fellow blogger.
3).  That…

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Drifting away……

Do you ever feel like you’re drifting away from the world around you? Like you’re not that close to your best friends anymore? There’s always jokes you don’t understand, or stories from when you weren’t present? People that you once felt you couldn’t live without feeling like strangers?


Yeah, me too.

Don’t get me wrong. I still love each person that is in my life, and I know they care as well (at least I hope they do). But lately, I feel like things are changing. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older and focusing more on the future. Maybe it’s because some of my friends participate in activities that I’d rather not. Maybe I’m just changing as a person. I’m not sure what’s happening, but it feels like I’m at one of those crazy forks in the road that you see in cartoons or life metaphors. The problem is that I can’t stand the uncertainty of not knowing where either road leads.


People are like sand at the beach.. There’s tons of them. You gather a few and you can build something great, but somehow it can always be washed away..

Demand Respect…

Alright, I just wanted to touch on something that I’ve noticed lately: women allowing disrespect.

I’ve seen/heard comments like “All boyfriends cheat, you just have to accept that”, “Men will be men”, and “As long as he comes back to me at the end of the day, I don’t care who else he does”. Ladies, this is NOT acceptable. Comments, such as these, are merely excusing the horrid behavior. Realize your worth, and do not allow someone to disrespect you. You should wait for a man who will honor you and treat you like a queen. I know you’re thinking, what fairytale world does this chick live in? And I ask you to consider what I’m saying if only for a moment. Why should you be subjected to harsh treatment just to have “love”? Just to have someone to come home to at night? Is it really worth it if that someone doesn’t respect you, continuously sleeps around, breaks your heart, and abuses your trust? YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT! Don’t let anyone make you think that this situation is the best you can ever get.  Be confident, demand respect and truly be loved.

AHHHHH…career fairs.

I am a Communication major with a minor in Sociology, and I will be entering the real world December 2012. To my surprise, everyone was right when they said that college would go by quickly. I really can’t believe that it’s coming so soon.

And anybody who knows me, talks to me, or eavesdrops on any of my conversations I’ve had recently, knows that the truth has hit me. Hard. IN THE FACE! I’m going to be graduating very soon, and unless millions of dollars are going to magically appear in my bank account, I’m going to need a job to sustain myself.

Because of this abuse that I’ve been experiencing from this little trick named reality, I went to a career fair today. Thankfully, my school has one of the best career centers around so they are able to provide many opportunities such as this fair. Last night filled with angst, I researched the companies that would be represented and proceeded to have what some might call a psychological meltdown AKA I was freaking out. There was so much to read and so many decisions to make.

But this morning, I woke with a breath of calm. God, himself, was the only one who could have given me this peace. I was able to network with some great people and learn about some potential internships for the summer so I’m well on my way to success. I’m still unsure about my future, but the events of my day were able to restore my confidence in my abilities. No, everything did not go perfectly. I had a wardrobe malfunction, I was caught in the rain, I was splashed by a biker, and I didn’t find the job of my dreams. But I’ll get there. One step at a time. . .

A little clarification…

Okay, I realize that I was really vague about this blog. The reason for that is that this blog will be about…everything.

I am a woman, a Christian, a full time student, an intern, a sister, a roommate, a poet, a friend, an employee, a daughter, a writer, and much more. Because of all these lovely layers, this blog will consist of anything that comes to mind, amuses me, or troubles me. It will be honest and real. I’m not going to sugar coat anything. I’m not going to lie. This is my journey.


The name is Jacinda. I’m a little bit goofy, a tad imperfect, and definitely fully fabulous.

To me, “beautifullyridiculous” is the perfect description of me. Follow this blog, and you find out exactly what that means. 😉